Overwhelm

It seems to me that overwhelm happens much more frequently than I would like.  I chock it up to option overload, the inability to say no, or trying to please everyone.  Funny thing is the one person I end up not pleasing with all of this is myself.  I often wonder where the incessant need for me to be "in the middle" of everything came from.  I take on too much, procrastinate a little, and make myself crazy, this cannot be good.  I imagine to get out from under this feeling of drowning of my own creation I need to stop cold turkey.  I just feel so guilty when I say no, but I feel worse when I take on too much.  I see why when on an airplane you are instructed to put on your oxygen mask first, perhaps it's time that I put mine on.